I was scrolling through my Facebook feeds and I noticed this image.
As much as it’s cute, it got me thinking about expectations and how much they lead us to frustration.
This cute cat is imagining a majestic tiger, tries to draw it and seen the result is not exactly as his idea, he gets frustrated and throw the drawing away whit an upset expression. This cat will maybe try to draw something else again and will end up in give up drawing for good.
The tiger that the cat draw, is not like the tiger he imagined, but it’s his interpretation. It’s cute. He should not be frustrated with the result, because it’s his first attempt and with practice he will get better.
This is the type of frustration that many people experience many times in their life.
We are not different.
We are bombarded by videos showing amazing artists, actors and philanthropic human beings, we see our colleague being promoted before us, we see a teenager winning 3 Million Dollars for playing video games.
‘I will never be able to be good at…………., I will never even start trying’.
These people didn’t become expert in their fields overnight, they became expert with practice, effort and dedication.
We see the results, we are inspired and we think that, if we can’t make it immediately, we aren’t worth the air we breathe.
What I do + how well I do it -> my self-worth
This is NOT TRUE.
What does it mean ‘well’ in that sentence? What’s the measuring unit for ‘well’?
The measuring units is our expectation. For the cat, it was the image of the tiger.
What is our expectation? We compare ourselves to people that are masters in their crafts and automatically we put ourselves beneath of these people.
If I try to be someone else, I’m an imitator. I’ll copy dumbly, I will ever compete with the best ending up in always having the second place (in the best-case scenario) and I will only take into consideration the end results, ignoring the effort, time and knowledge that this person worked hard for.
Why don’t we try to observe, internalize, metabolize and give our spin to it?
If we do that you will not be an imitator, but you’ll be an INITIATOR.
We will never have success as Leonardo Da Vinci, but we can be successful as ourselves.